Dealing With Stress
Tuesday, February 26th, 2008Although it isn’t inherently associated with finances, stress often times arises from dealing with your personal financial issues, regardless of if you’re in a good financial situation or not.
In regards to finance, there are (in my opinion) good forms of stress and bad forms of stress. Most people tend to only see the bad forms of stress - this stress often discourages them from even dealing with their finances, which is a place that you don’t want to be - and a place I’ll touch on later this week. What causes stress? Things called stressors are basically the things in ones life that influence the level and frequency of stress. In order to manage stress, it’s important to manage these stressors effectively - and in order to do that, they must be identified.
Things that stress people out negatively vary drastically from person to person. If I were standing in a crowd, the person to my right might be fine with having credit card debt and paying relatively high interest rates on the cards, while the person to my right may think that credit cards are the worst thing available, and I lie somewhere in the middle. Something that doesn’t stress out one person is causing some people to rip out their hair. Because of the dynamic nature of stressors amongst a large group of people, everybody has to identify what they personally get stressed about. Credit card debts, working 9-5 for ‘the man’, whatever; write down anything that causes stress and is somehow related to finances. My big one is working 35 hours for ‘the man’ for close to minimum wage and feeling like I’m not making any progress. Being a college student, it’s something that I’ve been conditioned to live with, but I’m not satisfied with mediocrity.
Once you have a list compiled, arrange them by how simple they are to solve. Working 9-5 for somebody else, for example, probably ranks pretty low on the list - it’s quite difficult for most people to quit their job and still maintain their standard of living. On the other hand, if something that causes you stress is your credit card bills - or just managing your spending - chances are it’s easier to solve problems like this. Once you have the list arrange, start at the top and work your way down, eliminating them completely or figuring out a way to deal with them. If your credit card bills are causing you a headache month after month, start paying down more to get rid of the debt quicker. Cut expenses (something I’ll get into later) if you don’t have the extra cash easily. If you’re like me and don’t want to be stuck in a 9-5 for 40+ years, find something that you like to do and learn how to make money from it; you won’t be sick of doing it and it’ll help you accomplish your goals. The important thing to know is that when you’re tackling this list, it’s simply going to be impossible to knock off all of these peeves, at least quickly. Patience is a must, as is persistence. If you continue to make small changes that will help reduce your stress, you will be happily surprised over time.
Eliminating all stress isn’t necessarily a good thing, at least not for all people. It depends on how you operate, but I personally thrive off some level of stress. I’m a full-time college student and a full-time employee for a retail electronics store. I have about two hours each day where I can manage to sit down and relax, but it’s this hustle and bustle that keeps me going. Good stressors in my life, when it comes to my finances, include working full time. Being employed keeps me active and, I hate to say it, provides a ‘reliable’ source of income. I hate to say it because I wish I didn’t have to rely on trading my time for my money, but as of right now my options are somewhat limited. Being employed keeps me active in my own life, trying to change how I’m making my money and how I’m spending my time. By being stressed from my working situation, I am more motivated to make changes and find a ‘way out’.
Using seemingly negative stressors in a positive way can be a huge motivator. Above all, remember that everything will take time to change. Almost nothing can be changed immediately. Being able to cope with the stress in the meantime and being able to deal with the time it takes to change things is what makes or breaks people; it’s what keeps some people biting their fingernails and it keeps other people looking for alternatives to their current situation. The important thing to remember is that we all have a choice with how we deal with stress. Don’t bite your fingernails.